Sometimes Mother's Day Hurts

Mother's Day is always an emotional one for me.  I started my day with some serious baby snuggles while we waited for dad to get home from shift and then I headed to Barre3 for a workout.  On my way home, I made my daily stop for coffee.  As I was driving on the freeway, sucking down caramel syrup and crying, I reflected on how painful this day used to be for me. 

The truth is, Mother's Day is such a joyous occasion for the majority, but for so many others, it is extremely painful.  Whether you're a mom in waiting, an angel mama, a son or daughter who has lost their mom, a mom who has lost their child - it can be a day that's extremely hard to celebrate.

If you've read our story or follow chip&chisel on social media, you know I've been vocal about our past infertility struggles and that I have a huge place in my heart for those traveling the road we found ourselves on.  That's why, even though I love to celebrate Mother's Day with all the love and laughter that my girls bring, my heart is still heavy for those that hurt on this day.

I came across this article this morning and it just hit home, so I wanted to share.  Reading always helped me during a very difficult chapter in my life, so if you're someone that could potentially benefit from a quick read as well, I wanted to pass it along.

http://johnpavlovitz.com/2015/05/09/for-those-who-hurt-on-mothers-day/

I know I'm on the other side of the struggle now and I feel truly blessed to have been given the two miracles that I call Addi & Livi, but the pain still feels fresh - no, it's not as intense as it once was, but I remember it like it was yesterday.  It's a different kind of pain now, more that my heart hurts for others.  I actually hope that I never forget these intense feelings as it was a journey that helped to mold me and grow my heart, if that makes sense. 

If you take this day to hide out in bed, know that it's totally okay.  I'm a very big "feeler of my feelings" (just ask my husband) ... there's nothing wrong with giving yourself time to feel and work through that.  When I used to have a hard day, I would set a mental timer - sometimes it was an hour, sometimes a full day.  I would allow myself that time to wallow, cry, and eat all the ice cream.  After my allotted time was up, I would dust myself off and turn my focus to something else.  I know that may not work for everyone, but it got me through some difficult times without completely falling apart.

If you're struggling today, I'm thinking of you.

xo
lindsy

Giveaway Winners!

Guys, I am totally late on getting this posted - I'm so sorry!  I had hoped to post it on Monday, but with the girls' birthday on Sunday and Addison being sick, the weekend just flew by and I didn't get much of anything done that I actually needed to.  I'm going with 'better late than never' on this one and hoping you understand.  :)

A couple weeks ago, I posted a little prize for those that had commented on blog posts during the first couple weeks of March Madness.  In addition to that, there are a couple winners to announce - one for the druzy stud earrings mentioned in the post from last week and then also the overall winner of the giveaway!  So, the winners are ...

Katie - Druzy Stud Earrings
Krista - March Madness Giveaway Winner of a $25 chipandchisel.com credit

A big thank you to everyone that played along ... it was fun getting to know a little bit about you!  To the ladies that won, please email me at lindsy@chipandchisel.com to claim your prize.

It's been a long (but very productive!) day and I'm so ready for some baby snuggles and a glass of wine - enjoy your evening!

xo
lindsy

Wrapping Up March

One more day and that's a wrap for March Madness!  What better way to end it than with a giveaway within a giveaway! 

I've been browsing through some of the Instagram accounts of my favorite "mompreneurs" and started wondering about my chip&chisel followers - Who else is one?  Who do they know that's one? Who wants to be one?

I follow lots of super inspirational accounts - they post the kinds of things that give you the drive to push forward on a rough day and inspire you without even necessarily trying.  They encourage community over competition and are all about supporting women in business. I love seeing other women meet their goals and enjoy their successes - it's amazing energy to feed off of!  Whether it's your full time gig or a side job, women rocking their businesses and loving what they do is so awesome and I love to support that!! 

I try to shop small and support other women-owned businesses whenever possible.  I mean, where better to spend your money if you're gonna spend it, right?  Below are a few of my faves (some local, some not) - share at least one of yours in the comments (add their Instagram username if they have one) and you'll be entered to win a pretty pair of druzy stud earrings!!

Stitches & Moor (local) - @stitchesandmoor - the cutest crocheted goodies for you and your littles
Pucker & Pout (local) - @pucker.and.pout - this girl feeds my LipSense addiction
La Petite Cookie (local) - @la_petite_cookie - the most beautifully decorated (and yummy!) cookies
Laura Chenoweth for Rodan & Fields (local) - @laura_chenoweth - the sweetest R+F gal out there
Baby Beans and Me (local) - @babybeansandme - the most adorable clothes and headbands for your littles
Levi & Roen In Print - @leviandroen_inprint - fellow IVFer and twin mama creating the cutest personally designed prints
Pottery Lodge - @potterylodge - her beautiful personalized ring dishes make perfect gifts
Barre3 Felida (local) - @barre3felida - the workouts are amazing and the studio community is incredible
Whitney Summers Photography (local) - @whitneysummersphotography - the best family & newborn photographer around and our personal go-to
Kawaii Goodies - @kawaiigoodies1 - love her custom stickers & stamps, not to mention her positive posts
Dapper & Darling - @dapperanddarling - gorgeous watercolor silhouette portraits (littles, pets, etc)

Let's show some love - I'm sure you guys have some favorites that you can add to this, right? 

xo
lindsy

 

Morning Exploring

Happy Sunday guys!

We caught a break in the rain yesterday and (gasp!) the sun even came out for a bit.  We bundled up to take a stroll downtown along the river and the girls had a blast throwing rocks into the water.  I love the age they're at ... everything is exciting to them. 

These are my favorite kind of days.  No big plans, no running around, just the four of us hanging out all day without anything that has to be done.  The girls will be two next Sunday, so I feel like I'm trying to soak up every last minute with my one year olds.  This mama has been getting emotional thinking about them really leaving all of their "baby-ness" behind.  :(

What's your favorite way to spend the weekend?

xo
lindsy

At This Time Last Year ...

... the girls were still just babies and life was still just as busy!  It never really slows down much though, does it? 

People always tell me that it gets easier, but I've yet to enter that "stage".  For now though, I'm just trying to enjoy the days (even the difficult ones) because it's all flying by and most days feel like a whirlwind.  I blink and it seems like a week has gone by!  If I could have one birthday wish, it would be that time would slow down and the girls would stay little forever.  I think I said the same thing when I saw these pictures taken around my birthday last year for the girls' FIRST!!

Who else takes a hundred pictures a day? I probably took about a thousand pictures during my birthday week last year, but I'll share just a handful of my favorites with you.  :)

I can't believe how much the girls have grown!  I see them everyday and know that they're getting bigger, but when you see the pictures and take a peek at life in rewind, it really hits you.  Going to bed with a full heart tonight ... a full, 35 year old heart.

xo
lindsy

 

Give Me All The Sunshine

We finally have a sunny day in the PNW!!  I'm soaking it up because it's back to grey tomorrow.  This may be the winter that sends me over the edge ... there's been way too much rain and way too many gloomy days. 

As a pick-me-up, I've been scouring blogs and Pinterest hunting for some spring-y outfits for new jewelry design inspo ... and as a result, I've got some cute new pieces coming your way!!  For now though, I'm just going to leave a few of my favorites right here ...

So, which one would you wear?

xo,
lindsy

Photo 1 || Jade Scott, A Spoonful of Style - I basically love everything she wears and she has the cutest kids ever! 
Photo 2 || Style Estate Blog
Photo 3 || Luvv It

Fri - YAY!

It's Friday, guys ... we made it!  Now let's celebrate!

I have three pairs of these gorgeous rose gold druzy studs ready to ship!  Gold bezel cup settings, $20 each, includes shipping ...

Message me via Instagram, Facebook, or the website with your email to claim!  Have a great weekend!!

xo,
lindsy

 

Target Strikes Again

We spent the day shopping for new car seats.  Four of them to be exact.  A couple trips to Target for a bunch of stuff I'm sure I didn't need.  The shoe section at Babies R Us totally sucked me in ... again.  A few stops at Starbucks for coffee and cake pops.  Grocery store, amazon order, birthday gifts.  And now my current mood:

I actually had zero reason to make my first trip to Target.  I took the girls "just to look".  I roll my eyes as I even type that - no one goes to Target just to LOOK.  After what felt like a trip down every single aisle and too long in the toy section, we strolled to the front with a cart full of the most random items.  When will I learn?!

The girls enjoyed themselves though ... they always do. Target Lovers. #theygetitfromtheirmama

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I hope you had a great weekend!!  Do anything fun?

xo,
lindsy

 

Give Me All The Rose Gold

Ever need to add a little something to your outfit but you're in a hurry and would rather spend those extra few minutes working on your caffeine fix rather than picking the perfect accessory?  I've got some new dainty & delicate pieces that are perfect for these moments!

Simple, everyday designs that are just the perfect touch - they're subtle and understated, making all of them a perfect option for grab & go wear! 

Each of these pieces are perfect to layer or keep it minimal and wear one of them on its own.  Look for these new pretties coming as individuals and also as sets.

Which one is your favorite?

xo,
lindsy

Shop Here :: Tiny Crystal Necklace, Simple Bar Necklace, Three Bead Necklace

Obsessed Is An Understatement

If you've seen my social media posts this past week, you already know that I am completely and utterly obsessed with this new design!  I love a lot of personalized pieces, but this one takes the cake. 

Now maybe you're wondering why all the love for this piece when I've obviously personalized bar necklaces before?  Well, I'll tell you!  The combination of this bar size with the tiny font is just FAB - couple that with the stacked personalization, right alignment and, well, it's beyond visually appealing to me.  If I could send one of these to every one of you, I totally would! 

The biggest bonus of this design is that it looks amazing with one, two, three+ names.  Dots between names are perfect separators, so you can fill the bar and it doesn't look crowded. Don't want to go with names?  How about dates, roman numerals, your favorite word, mantra or quote?  I mean, the options are endless.

 

I feel like the pictures just can't completely convey everything that I love about this beauty, but I promise that it will have you swooning!  Click HERE or on the images to view the listing for this piece.

How would you personalize your bar?

xo,
lindsy

12 Days & Counting

I am desperately craving some spring weather <insert crying face emoji here> ... like I NEED it.  Now. 

Floral prints, brighter colors, some sort of strappy high heel ... I'm lost in a daydream just thinking about being able to pack away all my sweaters and boots!  While spring around here brings rain, it also brings some sunshine and this girl is totally craving it.

Pinterest has me ready to revamp my wardrobe and I'm loving the casual style of this light floral top paired with either a personalized disc or bar necklace at a shorter length so it lays right on the collarbone ...

Both of these necklaces are perfect designs for everyday wear which is why I love them and have a hard time choosing!  I'll admit that the disc necklace rarely leaves my neck - even when I layer, this piece usually stays. 

Which piece suits your personal style best?

xo,
lindsy

1. || http://mindymaesmarket.com/collections/new-releases/products/alexia-floral-top-off-white
2. || http://www.chipandchisel.com/necklaces/tiny-names-disc-necklace
3. || http://www.chipandchisel.com/necklaces/personalized-thick-large-bar-necklace

 

 

Rise & Shine

My husband left for shift early this morning and since I was half awake, I decided I would get up and try to squeeze in some quiet time before the girls started stirring.  See now, usually when I do this, I swear they just sense that I'm up and they follow suit.  But not today!  I've been up for an hour and I haven't heard a peep from them.  So here I am, starting the day like old times and it feels UH-MA-ZING!  I even painted my nails.  :)

Before we had kids, one of my favorite things in the whole wide world was getting up early and enjoying a cup of coffee in silence while answering emails or perusing Pinterest.  Now I'm just excited when I wake up five minutes before the littles so I can have a moment to find my bearings and pour the creamer in my coffee cup before I hit brew (it just doesn't taste right when I pour it in after - anyone else?).

I'm definitely an early bird and I'm usually much more productive in the morning than at night.  So what are you - an early bird or a night owl?

xo
lindsy

Never Miss A ...

Life is busy.  I have two toddlers, a business, a home to maintain, a marriage to nurture, friends & family that I love to spend time with ... this doesn't even include all the other things that I enjoy like shopping, manis & pedis, happy hour, etc.  Those last few don't make an appearance on my schedule very often but I daydream about them regularly.

If you've followed me on Instagram and Facebook for awhile, I'm sure you've seen me mention barre3.  I am a die hard, totally committed, can't live without it, member and I've been one for five and a half years - yep, because it's THAT GOOD!!  But it's not just the physical results that I love, it's the mental clarity and all the feel good emotions that come from my hour spent in the studio (and they have a full library of online workouts if you don't have studio access!). 

Anyway, here's a mantra of theirs that has really been resonating with me ... "It's not about prioritizing your schedule.  It's about scheduling your priorities."  There's truth in that, right?  Well, I think so.  I've started scheduling my priorities to ensure that I'm really making it happen because when I do this, I consistently feel my absolute best and find that I'm much better for my family because of it - and yes, I schedule caffeine.

NEVER MISS A . . . W O R K O U T.  I schedule my workouts in advance and do anything and everything I can to stick to my schedule.  Like anything.  I go to barre3 4-5 times a week.  It's a must for me, a total priority.  We live in the pacific NW and it's grey and rainy a LOT.  The weather makes me feel totally blah and I need a regular pick-me-up!  I schedule my classes out 2-3 weeks in advance because, well I'm a planner.  And not only that, but I have ZERO excuse to not go if I already have it all planned out.  Sick kids?  I call a grandma.  Snowed in?  Bust out the snowshoes.  Okay, not really ... but I would if I lived closer! 

NEVER MISS A . . . S T O P F O R C O F F E E.  Everyday after barre, the girls and I make a stop for my caffeine fix.  If I'm not working out that day, I'll make a special trip out for it!  It's my guilty pleasure and I can't (and won't!) give it up.  My workout and those venti iced lattes and caramel macchiatos literally power me through my (sometimes very long) day so that I can wrangle kiddos, do my work-at-home mama thing, and maintain my sanity at the same time.  I fake being well rested with caffeine and I'm 100% ok with that.

NEVER MISS A . . . B R E A K F O R M I N D L E S S A C T I V I T Y.  Every night after the girls are tucked in, I get ready for bed (yes, at 7pm) and curl up for some time with a book, a magazine, my favorite show, Pinterest, Instagram ... you get the picture.  Something that I enjoy that doesn't take any effort or cause me to think too much.  I prefer an hour but even when I can't swing that big of a chunk of time, I take SOMETHING for myself.  This is my time to unwind after going nonstop all day.  I will ignore whatever I didn't get to during the day ... the dishes, the laundry, the toys scattered all over the house.  It will all be there the next day.

If there's one thing I've learned in the almost two years since having kids, it's that it can't be all about everyone else ALL the time.  I tried that for waaay too long and it left me feeling depleted and unfulfilled.  Not to mention, I want my girls to grow up seeing me do things that make me a better mom, wife, and woman in general not just running myself ragged everyday and not giving ME the time and attention that I deserve.  My family is my number one priority and at the forefront ALWAYS, but what I've figured out is that this doesn't take away from them at all!  Quite the opposite actually.  So, it's a win-win for everyone.

What is at least one "Never Miss Moment" in your day?  Or if you don't have one, what would you love to have time for? 

xo
lindsy

Name That Baby!

Unless I can see their faces (or Addi's belly), I can barely tell the girls apart anymore! When I turned around and saw this, I had no idea who should get the credit for being my little dishwashing helper?!  I even sent this to my husband and he had no idea who it was. 

So, who is it - Addison or Alivia??

xo,
lindsy

Kickin Off March Madness!

Hi guys ... thanks for joining me over here!  If you haven't read yesterday's post, please take a quick minute for a little catch up so you can play along!

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It's been a cold, rainy, (abnormally) snowy, and grey winter over here and this girl is ready for SPRING!  It's right around this time each year that my mind starts wandering to tropical destinations ... somewhere warm where I can lay on the beach with the sand in my toes and a pretty drink with an umbrella in my hand.  Ahhh, if only!!  Unfortunately, we are totally not brave enough to pack up two toddlers for a long plane ride to a place where we won't really get to enjoy the beach or the pool.  Maybe another year or two?  Until then, I will daydream of my favorite spot - Kauai.

If you could leave tomorrow and spend a week vacationing in the location of your choice, where would it be?

xo,
lindsy

 

Some V-Day Love from Me to You!!

Guys, I love when you have chances to win free stuff!!  I just wish I had time to host giveaways more often, but you know ... life.  :)  Details for entering the giveaway were posted on Instagram & Facebook yesterday morning - a $50 chipandchisel.com shop credit AND this gorgeous cookie gift set!!

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I ordered these gorgeous cookie sets as part of the girls' Valentine's Day gifts - it's a #mamamade business not far from me and I love to support small whenever possible.  After chatting, we decided to team up and bring a fun gift package to you as a nice little treat!  If you haven't taken a look at La Petite Cookie's Etsy shop, I highly recommend it ... I can't get enough of these cookies and keep racking my brain trying to think of another reason to order.  Support this mama at www.lapetitecookie.etsy.com

Good luck to everyone that is participating!!

xo
Lindsy

Planner People?? Help!!

I think this must be some sort of record-setting week for me ... TWO blog posts??  Who am I??!!

Well, the truth of the matter is, since I've cut back in other areas of work, I have more time to focus on some of the things that have been neglected - and let me tell you, it feels good.  The biggest thing has been the mental shift, and it's so apparent how much I needed that!  I've been enjoying more downtime with my littles, relishing in the snuggles without feeling rushed, and just watching my babes run around all messy-haired without a care in the world ... I'm not constantly checking the clock, panicked about fitting everything in during the day or jamming my to-do list with a hundred things more than a normal person can ever get done in a day.  Nope, I've slowed down and I'm being very intentional about it (and if you read my last blog post, you know that's a big deal to me this year).

While I'm enjoying this slower pace, I'm definitely still working over here!  And I'm still a work-at-home mama which means my juggling act needs to be pretty dialed in if I don't want to squander away my opportunities to be productive.  We're trying out something new in our household and it will take some scheduling and organization,  but I think we may have found the solution to my issue of not being able to really work without interruptions and distractions.  I'm going to take two days each week (okay, I'm starting with half days because, if I'm being honest, it's hard for me to leave the girls all day long to go work) and head out to a coffee shop to get in some good hours of focused work time.  I did this last week and we noticed that there were big benefits ... I don't feel distracted the rest of the day by unfinished work, I feel accomplished at the end of the week, and I get a little break from my kiddos which I've learned is vital.  Plus, my husband loves being with them and getting quality one-on-two time with his girls, so it truly is a bonus for everyone! 

What I'm on the hunt for is something that will help us with scheduling and keeping track of who is where and when - basically a shared calendar app so that we can both see it, update it, and live by it.  I feel very fortunate for a flexible schedule, but I crave a routine - I function better that way.  So while I enjoy being able to move this/push that, I need structure wherever I can get it.  In order to make this work as seamlessly as possible, we both need to be able to access the most up-to-date info for any given day and our paper calendar at home just isn't going to cut it (even though I do love anything paper and miss the days of carrying a planner in my purse!).

Do you have an app that you use for this type of thing?  Something that works great for your family?  I know there are a bunch out there, but I'd love to try one that someone recommends. I'm open to ideas and would love to hear from you!!

For now, I'm off to play with this little Sheepdog (we are in the growing-out-our-bangs-because-a-trim-every-week-is-too-much-for-this-mama stage lol).  ;)

xo
Lindsy